Hello! Welcome to my Profile Page.
Writing an About Me page feels like being in group therapy. When it’s my turn to speak and the therapist asks, “What about you Charlie? Do you have anything you want to share today?” I want to sit there sit with my arms folded, staring at the floor, and respond with, “uhh…pass.”
I’m not keen on sharing myself. But I also know that you can’t connect with anyone or be a good writer until you bear a bit of your soul. I don’t want to isolate myself behind invulnerability. …
I never expected to meet someone like this.
When I was younger, I was naïve, and more than a little insecure. I didn’t expect anyone to have bad intentions and would do my best to keep other people happy. I was easily manipulated, and quick to react if provoked.
This is fertile ground for being narcissistic prey.
A narcissist’s personality is divided equally between self-loathing and self-importance. Their self-hatred is only matched by their sense of entitlement. They convince themselves of being superior to others to avoid looking at who they are.
A narcissist can take the form of a…
I don't believe that porn shouldn't exist.
Even if anyone did believe that, it’s not something we could ever truly get rid of. Being fascinated by sex will never go out of style. That being said, porn is probably killing you. Here’s why:
Porn has been around for almost as long as humans have.
Before modernity, pornography was a luxury that only the rich could experience through buying erotic artwork or watching stage performances.
When the 1970s rolled around, pornography came to a theatre near you in the form of peepshows. …
I was never good at hiding pain. I would hold everything in and do the best I could to keep it together. The most I would reveal is a little desperation behind my eyes. Or a weariness in my walk. Or a slight air of hopelessness.
Random strangers would make comments like “chin up kid.” Or, “Hey, it’s not that bad.” Those aren’t the worst things to be told. But sometimes, when people picked up on what I was feeling, it would set them off.
Even close friends would say things like, “Look around, it’s fine. You’re fine. You have…
Remember nine months ago when people stormed the United States Capitol building hoping to discover a secret chamber where Nancy Pelosi was keeping children held captive? That was the result of an echo chamber.
Remember when Reverend Jim Jones successfully convinced nine hundred people to drink cyanide-laced punch? That was also the result of an echo chamber.
Echo chambers now exist in abundance. Thanks to the internet, it’s easy to find a community of like-minded people and dig in your heels. Your views, no matter how bizarre, can be heard, understood, and affirmed by others. …
You haven't been ok for a while. Things are feeling stale. Your routine is killing you. You catch yourself fantasizing about faraway places, exotic activities, seeing someone new, being someone new.
Sometimes life tells you that everything has to go and that it's time for a new beginning.
But what can you do? Maybe you’re stuck where you are. But then again, maybe you aren’t. Maybe you have more control than you think. Here are five things you need to address if you truly want to make big changes:
If you want to start fresh, then you need to do…
I don’t need to tell you that the world is struggling right now.
People are tired. People are scared. People are hostile. People are addicted. I won’t get into specifics. You already know.
I don't have all the answers, but I do believe that we can find ways to thrive. There are real and practical ways of doing that. So let’s get started:
I’m not talking about going to paint nite. I’m talking about immersing yourself in a discipline (like music, drawing, or sports) and tracking your progress over time. You don’t even have to be an artist.
Has anyone ever told you, “You better enjoy this time. These are the best years of your life.” How did that make you feel?
What if those years weren’t your best? What if you struggled when you should have thrived? What if you spent those years fucking up and suffering instead of experiencing what you were supposed to experience and having the good times you were supposed to have?
What do you do now? Mourn what should have been? Or do you ground yourself in reality and shake off the nonsense?
What’s the conventional wisdom on when your best years…
Things can and do get better.
After a lot of self-work, resilience, and a willingness to explore your pain, you can start making real progress with your mental health. I have, and it feels pretty crazy.
When this does happen, it can feel weird. Scary even. When you’ve been in turmoil for so long, feeling better can seem like someone is playing a trick on you, so you spend your time waiting for the other shoe to drop. You say to yourself, “there’s no way this could possibly last.”
I’m at that stage now, and I’m figuring out how to…
I was at the gym, and my mental state took a dive.
I’ve freaked out in public before, and I was beginning to show signs of not being ok again.
But then something strange happened. A regular was on his way out the door.
He got my attention and said, “Hey, keep it up, man. You got it.” I responded, “hey, th-thanks.” And then he left. He wasn’t my friend. He had no reason to say that to me. He just decided to brighten somebody’s day on a whim. Everything felt lighter after that.
I started remembering who I was…